Taiwo Ajai-Lycett, OON is a Nigerian actress, journalist, television presenter, and cosmetologist. The veteran actress, who is highly revered and respected by many, has passed through a lot of pain in her lifetime and shares her story in the recent interview, encouraging the youths to forgive and move on irrespective of the situation.
The 80- year- old recipient of the Officer of the Order of the Niger (OON) revealed how she was tied up and raped, as well as the trauma she went through for marriage.
She says –
“I have been through the fire, I emerged fortified. I was 15 years old when I had a child. By 16, I was on my own. I knew I was going to get a good education. I was going to be a lawyer.
“But I knew that I was on my own. My family disowned me. I married David Akinduro after I relocated to the U. K, but I left him due to domestic violence. I met Thomas Lycett long after I divorced my first husband. Eventually, I married him. We had a blissful marriage. He died Some years back but I remember him every day.
“He was the one that told me that I was better off being an actor. After his death, I was robbed and raped in my house in Egbe. I was tied. I was beaten. I was brutalized. My health was ruined. ”
“I was blindfolded and raped. The man who raped me complained that he couldn’t gain easy entry into me because I wasn’t wet. I told him ‘widows don’t get wet.’
“I kept talking to them and asked them repeatedly, ‘Are you doing this to your mother? ‘ Angrily, they taped my mouth but I remained fearless and prayed all through the attack.” The police came. They expected me to pursue the case. I knew the masterminds. I could have gotten them incarcerated but I simply moved on. Look at me today, I am over it. See, the mind is a beautiful thing. When you hold on to past hurt, you tie yourself down to grief. You get infected with its poison.”
“Rather than wallow in grief and self-pity, I picked myself up and sought medical help, ensuring that they hadn’t infected me with an STD.”
“A few years later, one of them came to prostrate before me, pleading for my forgiveness. I told him to seek forgiveness from God. I told him I had moved on.”